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When it comes to communicating with a partner, there are many ways to grow closer. For those who can’t meet face to face, video chatting or phone calls are popular options. Texting has also been a longtime favorite.
However, it’s not just about whether you text, but how you do it. The simple act of messaging can have a positive impact, especially early on when you’re just getting to know someone, Vice reports. Read on to learn how texting can strengthen your connection.
Becoming Closer, One Text at a Time
Texting isn’t just about getting a message across. It can also be a powerful way to create trust in the early stages of a relationship, and even build a sense of safety before meeting in person. Once communication has begun, responding in a timely way matters. In fact, about 50 percent of gen Z and millennial singles want responses within 15 minutes, and for many instant replies are the most preferable.
That doesn’t mean you need to be on your phone all day. Rather, it’s about being considerate and responding when you have the chance. Make sure to also avoid burnout from constant messaging, and find a healthy balance instead of texting too much or too little.
Your Relationship to Texting Matters
Once a romantic relationship is established, it’s helpful to get clear on texting expectations, according to TIME. While some couples enjoy frequent communication, others keep texting to a minimum. There’s no single “right” way to communicate, as long as each partner's needs are being met.
“If you say you’re going to be in touch once a day, you should do it,” Robert Weiss, a California-based psychotherapist and digital intimacy and relationships expert tells Time. Weiss also advises against overanalyzing texting habits. He says an unanswered text may just be a result of a partner being busy, unless it becomes a pattern.
While sending a thoughtful message to your partner can go a long way, make sure to also set aside time to unplug. According to a study published in the journal Psychology of Popular Media Culture, feeling dependent on your smartphone is linked to lower relationship satisfaction.
Texting can be a powerful and simple way to show your partner how much they matter. So next time you grab your smartphone and start to type — make sure you’re doing it mindfully and with intention.
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