The Power of Holding Space
One of the most powerful ways we support others is by fully listening. When someone feels truly heard and seen, it can make all the difference.
A heartfelt listen can especially make a positive impact during hard times — and today, there’s a name for this compassionate act. “The term ‘holding space’ really is about being willing to show up for another person or a group of people, and to do so, especially when they’re going through a challenging time,” Heather Plett, a writer and coach credited with popularizing the term, told TODAY.
A Pop Culture Moment
The phrase had a big moment in pop culture, with people holding space for the lyrics of “Defying Gravity” in the movie Wicked. The song, sung by the character Elphaba, is about self-discovery and represents her journey from being shunned to empowered, Axios reported.
The concept gained wide attention when EqualPride journalist and GLAAD award winner Tracy Gilchrist told Cynthia Erivo, who plays Elphaba and Wicked co-star Ariana Grande that people online were holding space for the lyrics. “I didn’t know that was happening,” Erivo replied.
How to Hold Space
While the term may have gone even more mainstream due to Wicked, it’s a practice we can all carry out in our everyday lives. Holding space involves creating a compassionate and nonjudgmental environment in which someone feels safe enough to express their feelings, according to a blog on Psychology Today.
You can create this kind of space simply by being fully present and actively listening. Offer quiet support instead of attempting to solve problems or minimize feelings. By creating a safe environment where someone feels seen and heard, we can empower them to take ownership of their emotions. That’s often the first step of the path to healing.
Holding Space and Spirituality
According to LonerWolf, holding space is an essential part of spirituality. That’s because spirituality is not just about self-love, but also about learning to extend that love to others. Through mindful presence, we can sit with a person and give them our full attention in the spirit of being kind.
However, it’s important to remember that it’s not always possible to hold space for someone else. If you’re feeling tired, stressed, sick, overwhelmed, or your energy reserves are low, prioritizing your needs is necessary.
Holding space is a practice that requires us to check in with ourselves. But if we are able to simply listen without judgment, we can be a safe anchor for others and transform lives.
